Forcing a Change
Have you ever tried to force someone to change? Did it work?
I didn't think so.
How many times have you tried to change your own habits? Did you succeed or fail more often?
As human beings, we are stubborn and resistant to change by our nature. Especially FORCED change. We can't change another person when they aren't ready for it. And we can't change ourselves when we're not willing to make the change. What we CAN do, however, is make change easier on ourselves. Here are some tips.
1. Mentally Prepare BEFORE you try to change.
Spend some time pondering the change you want to make. Do some research on why the change is good, and what some of the benefits are. Write yourself an affirmation about the change. Repeat it to yourself five times. Meditate or pray about making the change. Make sure you spend some time visualizing WHY you are making the change.
2. Physically Prepare BEFORE you try to change.
Depending on what you're trying to change, this will mean different things. If you're trying to change your food habits, remove those things you no longer want to consume from your kitchen. If you're exercising in a new way, obtain new equipment. Make yourself notes in your calendar as to when you are making the change. If you're changing something financially, practice for a day ahead of time. Write down your plan. You get the idea.
3. Write your goal BEFORE you change.
Usually, we're not changing for no reason. Write down your reasons for changing. Make a plan for success. How will you know you've made the change? How long will you track your progress before you consider it a habit, and are not in danger of regressing? What is your measurable goal? Do you earn a reward for sticking with your change?
These three preparation steps will make change easier in your life. Not every change can be controlled, but for those you CHOOSE, you'll find this strategy makes them easier to swallow.
Much Love and Sparkle,